The title of this book by Erica Jong came to my mind, now that I am behind my desk writing my very first “Inspiration”. I was not so much thinking about the story in this (feminist) novel, but about what the title says: fear of taking the first step and therefore postponing that step time and time again – procrastinating as they say so beautifully in English.
I also spontaneously thought of a book that I recently read, by Patricia Ryan Madson, “Improv Wisdom” (fabulous wisdoms from the improvisation theatre). One of the chapters is called ‘Don’t prepare’ and the next one is called ‘Just show up’ – a bit what this is all about, but by extension it is about my new job, about writing these articles and in fact about life itself. The author says that you should not plan everything meticulously. Free your mind instead of filling it with to-do lists. Stop putting all of your energy in preparing for the future. Focus your energy on this very moment : ‘Change the habit of getting ready for life in favor of getting on with it now’.
It is also about “stretching” yourself. Everyone has so much to offer, but somehow we manage to sabotage ourselves by making ourselves believe that we are not ready yet, that we need more preparation, that we cannot do it, that we have no time to do it now, … In such cases it helps to have a coach who senses your talents and values, and who also notices your self-criticism and challenges you to surpass yourself. The fact that you are challenged will flatter your ego and strenghthen the belief in yourself. It acknowledges you as a person, your inner richness and capacities, and it will make you fly. Which brings me back to my title ‘Fear of Flying’, the fear to stretch your wings and take off. It is such a fabulous feeling to fly high in the sky, free from everything.
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