In the somewhat awkward period between Christmas and New Year my husband and I occasionally distance ourselves from the festivities by exploring nature. The same happened this year, and this time we even enjoyed some sunny days. The first day we planned to take a long walk in the Sankt-Vith region. Our walk led us through a variety of landscapes in the Eifel National Park, but also through some small villages. In one of those villages – the name eludes me – we were struck by the neatness of the front gardens, and more particularly by the fact that perfectly trimmed, spherical boxwood shrubs adorned practically all of them. It almost looked like an epidemic.
Our imagination ran wild. Maybe there had been a contest for the most beautiful boxwood front garden? Or maybe the mayor’s wife had started this practice and the rest of the villagers tried to surpass her by creating an even more spectacular composition? The front garden you see on the picture topped everything. But above all I was struck by the show level of it all.
It seemed as if everybody wanted to display some kind of perfection at the front of their house, the part visible to everybody else. It made me tired just to think about the amount of time and energy those villagers must be spending to make and keep their garden look perfect. But maybe they were all enjoying themselves thoroughly with this boxwood hype, who knows?
It reminded me of how we try to act better or different from who we are. Keeping up appearances costs a lot of energy and leads to a feeling of self alienation. We are so demanding of ourselves and let our moods be influenced irrationally by what we think others think about us.
I wrote previously about perfectionism and the price you pay for it. By being coached myself, I experienced the liberating feeling of finding out what you stand for and what your goal is in life. To be absolutely clear: you do not necessarily start a coaching programme because you are stuck or hit a road block (although these are also good reasons).
Being coached will dramatically broaden the way you look at yourself and the world. It makes you very much aware of your talents and values and it makes your seemingly unattainable dreams possible. It also decreases your need to live up to all sorts of expectations. This week I started my Coaching Certification, it will be a very intense and educational 6 months. It also implies that I need and would like to coach a lot so I can apply what I learn in practice and receive feedback from my supervisors. Therefore this call: I am looking for more people who want to accompany me on this adventure by being coached. Distance is truly not an issue, as I also coach via Skype of phone. I try to have the first session face to face, but this is not essential. Do not hesitate to contact me for further information. A first test session is always free and does not oblige you to anything.
See you in two weeks.