Many of you will undoubtedly remember Susan Boyle’s appearance as a contestant on Britain’s Got Talent. She was 47 at the time. In the clip you see the jury’s sceptical reaction when she comes on stage. Basing themselves on the appearance of the somewhat elderly, simple and plump housewife, they clearly cannot believe this will turn into a memorable performance. Until Susan hits the first note and delivers a touching performance of ‘I dreamed a dream’. The audience and jury are blown away and give a standing ovation, followed by the most firm ‘yes’ anybody ever received.
Susan was the youngest in a large family and suffered from minor oxygen deprivation at birth. She was what you would call ‘a bit weird’ and everybody assumed she was mildly retarded and had a learning disability. She led a secluded life and took care of her parents until they passed away. She had been singing all her life, but had never been offered the opportunity to develop her talent professionally. Nevertheless she managed to develop her singing voice into a versatile and wonderful instrument, because singing is what she loves most. You can only wonder what she could have achieved if her talent had been discovered and stimulated earlier.
The point of this story is that everyone enters this world with their own unique combination of characteristics, strengths and talents, which are fed by the environment you grow up in. When you are able to do the things you are naturally good at, you feel ‘in your element’ or you are ‘in the zone’, giving you a feeling of fulfilment and achievement.
When you let children be, what attracts them naturally? In which activities do they spontaneously participate? What kind of talent do they seem to have? Which activities completely absorb them? Which questions do they ask, which statements do they often make?
How different would life be for many of us if those who raised and educated us would have tried to understand what really makes us tick? What if we would be curious about the answers to the above questions? Instead we often try – unconsciously and with good intentions – to model our children after a so-called ideal or at least a certain ‘normality’. This usually results in adults who, even at an advanced age, are trying to find out who they really are and what they like doing. Adults who make professional choices that basically do not give them the satisfaction they desire.
But just like with Susan Boyle it is never too late to discover what makes you ‘be in your element’. Do you also have this gnawing feeling that you are not really where you should be and that your job does not really give you the fulfilment you want? Or do you feel there is still so much undiscovered potential inside that you want to develop? Or do you want to better adjust your choice of study or your first job to what makes your heart beat faster instead of what everybody expects you to do?
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